Who do you want to be with?

Updated: Dec 18, 2020

{Significant Other Addition}

The older I get the more I learn about myself. I learn the little silly things I do and what I would need to balance myself out. I have also realized its not the approval of others that you need in a relationship, it is the peace of being with that person.


Here are five things for certain I know I want in a relationship with a significant other.


1. Decision Maker.

I think about things more than most and sometimes I overthink it to the point where I don't know what I want anymore. If I say I don't care where we eat or what we do, I REALLY DONT. I don't want to make a decision. I'm the type of person that if I can't figure out what to eat for breakfast I'll skip it. Tacos are always respected though.


2. Co-Existing

I'm a very independent person. I have dated people in the past who needed constant attention and it stressed me out. All people want to feel validated, but every person has the ability to validate themselves. We can go out, but I want to get lost in the crowd, don't worry I'll come back. Having to constantly text or make someone else happy isn't logical. We all have bad days and can't focus solely on one person. We have lives to live, let's just co-live it.


3. Communication.

Like Noah from the Notebook "Tell me what you want!!" In our current culture, there is a lack of accountability for our actions and words. My biggest pet peeve has to do with dating. I have gone out with guys and know in my core that we are just meant to be friends. You can normally tell when you're attracted to someone. Communicate that. Most people I have told that to we end up being really good friends because I was completely honest with them.


4. The Little Stuff

I'm a sucker for handwritten notes, being taken care of in little ways, surprises, physical gestures, etc. Like in the morning when the other person wakes up turns over and realizes I'm still there and wraps their arm around me and pulls me a little closer. *dies* Or telling your partner or crush you had a dream about them. *smiling ear to ear* Getting me water, because we all need water. *aww* Really small stuff makes me smile more than anything.


5. Understanding.

I'm still young. I'm in a place of figuring out who I am and if one day that person doesn't align with the person I'm dating, then life goes on. I'm at a point right now where I want full mobility to go and do whatever and wherever my heart takes me. We all need to be honest about what kind of relationship we want, which I'm exploring the world and myself currently, building a relationship with someone else would be like trying to build on sand. An adventuring kind of flirtationship is the best way I could describe it. Let's go on adventures and be cute.


{I'm going to do a blog post about different types of relationships in the future.}


Thank you so much for reading. I encourage you to also write down what you want in a relationship. Having a scope to look through narrows it down. Have fun dating out there.


What is your biggest first date pet peeve? Tell me in the comments below.


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